Something Left To Say

I’ve been silent these past couple of days, partially because I’ve been trying to listen. Although I’ve been quiet online, I’ve been keeping busy. A lot has happened in the past few months. And yet I feel a vague sense of discomfort. PANAS EUY PANAS KALI SOCMED AKHIR-AKHIR INI!

Regardless of whom you supported at the polls, this year has been exhausting. If you woke up this morning feeling like you desperately need a break, you’re not alone. I’m not politician. I never liked the label for myself. I’d rather think of myself as a learner. Sometimes it’s not clear what exactly needs to be said, or what form it will take, or even whether it will have any impact on the world. I don’t always know how to sculpt the right words or paint what I’m describing. I have no idea whether it will take months or years to tell the story I want to tell. But as long as I feel I have something interesting left to say, I’m going to keep saying it.

Saya bukan Tuhan, yang layak memberi label hitam atau putih. Terlepas dari isu politik belakangan ini pun saya mungkin tak ada kapasitas untuk berbicara karena saya bukan siapa-siapa. Hal yang menjadi fokus saya adalah, betapa orang di dunia maya itu bisa menjadi begitu ‘luwes’ berkomentar lewat jari jemari. Mulai dari penampakan fisik orang lain, keputusan-keputusan yang diambil seseorang, kehidupan seseorang, gosip dan masiiiiih banyak lagi dari hal yang berat sampai yang receh-receh.

Mungkinkah karena tidak berbicara secara langsung sehingga orang merasa lebih berani dan bebas ngomong apa aja?

Saya pikir gag seharusnya begitu.

Apa gag bisa berbicara seolah lawan bicara kita memang ada di depan mata, apakah gag bisa berbicara tanpa menjudge hal yang belum tentu kita tahu ceritanya, apakah gag bisa berbicara tanpa harus merendahkan orang lain, apakah gag bisa berbicara seperti halnya kita ingin diperlakukan oleh orang lain?

Saya gag bisa bayangin kalo anak saya kelak menyaksikan semua ini di depan matanya dan jadi ikut arus terhadap hal-hal negatif.

Come on….

Today, social media is everywhere! Everyone has an account. We can no longer escape each other. I can now click through my profile photos and see my life happen in front of me. I see myself aging, changing, and becoming someone different – and I am also witnessing my friend transform.

Mungkinkah semua ini terjadi karena orang-orang mempunyai ekspektasinya sendiri-sendiri? Mungkin iya, mungkin iya tidak. Inilah gunanya kita juga harus bisa memanage ekspektasi kita terhadap hal-hal di sekitar kita. Terlebih untuk hal yang berada di luar kendali kita.

Remember when we were little kids and we were told we could do anything we set our minds to? We heard it mostly in grade school, but also in after-school programs and from parents.

We were told inspiring accounts of people who achieved great things. We learned of career options from astronaut to president and told we could have those jobs. We were taught about inspiring people and told we too could do big work with a big impact, that helped many people.

It seems like it would be a very useful lesson plan to prepare kids for when they are told no, they can’t, they aren’t good enough, to muster a “screw you” attitude and pursue their dream anyway, and manage expectation.

Another skill that I wish I had been taught in school is how to channel disappointment into something useful.

I didn’t learn these things in school, although I wish I had.

SAYA BELAJAR DARI PENGALAMAN.

SAYA BELAJAR DARI KEHIDUPAN DI SEKITAR SAYA.

Satu hal yang sering kita dengar, kalo kita menebar energi negatif maka kita akan menarik hal-hal negatif dalam hidup kita. Namun jika kita menebar energi positif, maka kita akan menarik hal-hal positif.

Tidak inginkah kalian dengan kehidupan yang tenang, penuh toleransi, dan saling menghargai?

Jika mau, ayo kita mulai dari diri sendiri.

 

 

 

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