EID MUBARAK 2021

Alhamdulilah we are able to celebrate our victory in Ramadhan this year. When I was younger, I looked forward to celebrating Eid because I knew I would be getting all the green packets (of money) from adults. Now, I look forward to Eid because it is a time to reflect and spend time with the family and friends. It is difficult to spend time with the family and friends all the time so I truly appreciate the time off from work to reunite with everyone.

People who skip visiting during Eid, you are missing out a lot. It is a time to catch up and bond. Regardless of how old I am, Eid visiting with the family has always been a priority to me. My aunties and uncles may age a little more every year but their presence and jokes never get old. Everyone’s lives are evolving too quickly and despite being so busy, Eid is time reserved for those special ones closed to our hearts. I find that the older I am, the more I appreciate spending time with loved ones.

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Selamat 2 Tahun, Chiara.

Tepat hari ini, 22 Maret 2021, 2 tahun usiamu Chiara (Ternyata bersamaan dengan ultah blog ini yang udah 9 tahun juga rupanya!). Ibu bahagia kamu tumbuh sehat dan bahagia. Alhamdulillah…masa menyusui 2 tahun tercapai juga, dan sebentar lagi saatnya menyapih yang sesungguhnya baru akan dimulai. Tentunya saat kamu dan ibu juga sudah siap.

Sebelumnya tak pernah menyangka akan ada di titik ini. Dulu ibu gag yakin ibu mampu untuk menyusui, bahkan saat lahiran pun belum beli pompa asi karena saking gag percaya dirinya bisa menyusui apa gag. Tapi rupanya ibu salah besar. Ketidaktahuan adalah musuh besar seorang ibu. Rupanya ibu kurang ilmu soal menyusui. Berkat pencarian info sana sini, tanya ke rekan-rekan yang lebih berpengalaman, serta dukungan dan doa dari orang-orang terdekat akhirnya ibu mampu menjalankan amanat ini. Dari menyusui langsung sampai asi perah. Dari setetes asi jadi berliter-liter asi. Dari yang hanya membasahi pantat botol, hingga berhasil nyetok sefreezer.

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Lately I’ve been…

It is easier to write when you’re in pain. It seems that ideas come easily when you’re sad, angry or devastated. It’s easier to explain the negative feelings rather than the happy ones.

These past few days I’ve been writing and writing but I never really publish it here because I just look at my writings and most of it are sad pieces and I don’t want my blog to be like that, I mean I am trying to have a positive outlook right? But then I realize that when you’re sad, words just comes out naturally and when you’re happy you can’t really explain it. When you’re happy sometimes you have too much words for it that you can’t organize it into writings, you don’t know how to begin to tell an awesome day but when you’re sad you know what to exactly write or say, every word is a vomit, it’s what you really wanted to tell without thinking about it first. At least that’s how I see it. 

Maybe what I’m trying to say here is that it’s more interesting to write about painful stuff, it has different emotions which you can play around. And people mostly relate to these kind of stuff, some people embrace their negative emotions that reading sad writings or watching sad movie for the nth time comforts them (weird way of coping up) I guess sadness over sadness cancels out the sadness and makes them positive after. 

So here’s a life update from my life lately.

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Creating Memories & Life Lessons on the Playground

I was born into a middle class family, where my parents tried their best to bring us up. We were aware that means were limited and we have to try to utilise it to the optimum. This awareness never made us demand much. But stay content with whatever we had.

Coming back to today’s times, it seems that everywhere we look, we find ourselves bombarded with advertisements telling us we all need more stuff. I believed the advertisers for years. But now that I’m older? I realize that when I think back on my childhood, it’s the memories I made with my family that I cherised — not the gifts I received. I hope to give my daughter the gift of memories over the gift of toys she’ll forget by next year.

One thing we miss a lot after the pandemic in the visit to playground especially overcrowded in those kids play area during weekends. The kids were unknown to each other but they enjoyed running around those equipment’s, climbing and hanging and the rush sliding down. These don’t make that much fun, when you visit on other days when there are no kids around and your kid alone in those slides, swings and bars.

Is it safe to take my child to the playground during covid? Playground play is beneficial for kids’ physical and mental health, but parents wonder about the risks of letting their children use playgrounds during a pandemic. By following basic health and safety guidelines, playground play can be safe.

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Making time to do the things we enjoy when we have a busy schedule

We know from experience how hectic and busy schedules can not only put a strain on your physical and emotional state, but it can also stress your marriage and your partner. Doing things that we enjoy is a key source of happiness. It can include hobbies, self-care activities or treating yourself, as well as other things.

Unfortunately, the fact that it is easy to get consumed in the busyness of life, and our daily responsibilities mean that it can be difficult to spend time doing the things we love. We have recently been able to spend a good amount of time doing the things we enjoy even though we have a full-time job, but I appreciate that it is not always easy to. Therefore, I want to use this blog post to talk about 8 things you can do to make time for the things you enjoy when you have a busy schedule. These are by no means suggestions guaranteed to work for you, as I know everyone has different situations, but I hope they can help nonetheless.

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10 Things I have learnt from difficult situations

Hello lovelies!

I have faced difficult situations in the past, but I have learnt something from all of these situations, and I want to share this in this post. I am aware that everyone’s situation is different, but I hope you can relate to some of the things I talk about.

Bad things happen regardless of situations, I think it’s what we learn from those situations that truly changes who we are as people. Some of the hardest things I’ve ever been through have been the making of who I am, and I wouldn’t ever want to change it. As people we are constantly evolving and changing, that’s why when people say to me “You’ve changed” I see it as a compliment. I don’t want to stay the same, I want to keep learning from my mistakes and grow from them.

I of course need to mention here that I don’t know your situations individually, and these are just my thoughts and lessons I have learnt myself from my own situations. If these don’t apply to you then I understand, we are all different and have been through different things.

So let’s get into it!

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Welcoming 2021 with My Reflections on 2020

The year 2020 is about to end and with the roller coaster ride of this year, this unpredictable year has changed me to some extent. Although I am optimistic about 2021.

A list of new vocabulary became the language of everyday. Corona, lockdown, isolation, positive, virus, pandemic, quarantine, vaccine and so on. Life has never been the same since.

The anger, frustration and helplessness of people spiked along with the cases worldwide.  It brought out emotions in mixed bag. Some counted on blessings and bonding while for others it was separation and desperation. Along with physical setback, emotional well being took a toll on people. With work from home and virtual classrooms, meet and greet, celebrations, everything was in an online avatar. Unlock brought in a breather for the economy. People are getting back to work, but fear still looms large. The vaccine coming out brings in a gentle ray of hope.

As we enter the last day of 2020, what are some of the thoughts and prayers that you want to fill in 2021 with? I would like to paint the coming year with vibrant hues of positive vibes.

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A Soulful Conversation with Myself

Finally, you have stolen some time out of your hectic schedule and decided to talk to yourself. It’s been a very long time that you met yourself, but good that you could squeeze out some time today and hope the whole conversation is going to be very interesting.

It’s been even more hectic all through this year with the pandemic in existence and you tried managing both personal and profesional commitments to the best of your capability, but is is still fine if your husband is wahing the dishes or your daughter is dusting the home. It’s their home too.

You always tried to be the first one to wake up early in the morning and start the engine, but it’s fine if it is your mother waking up early occasionally and handing over breakfast to you. You too deserve some pampering at times.

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It’s starting right now.

There are a lot of things that I don’t do because I’m too scared, too anxious, too shy, too worrisome, too this or too that. Not the right fit. Not the right person. Not the right personality. Not the right ambition. I endlessly drive myself crazy thinking of what ifs – what if it goes wrong, what if it doesn’t work out, what if it’s the worst decision of my life, what if I instantly regret it or come to regret it later down the line, what if I wish I hadn’t done it, what if I’m so embarrassed I never want to talk about it again. What if?

I have goals in life that I could list down for you if you asked me, but in the back of my head I’m realistic in the sense that I don’t believe these things will actually happen. Things like that don’t happen to people like me.

I often wonder what my life would be like if someone else was in my body, or to put it in a simpler way, if I was in someone else’s body. If I was born as so and so person, would I have achieved the same things they did? I guess that’s the entire point of being an individual. We can look the same and be entirely dissimilar. A body is a body but only a shell. Our memories, experiences, achievements, hopes and dreams.. that’s what makes us. Breaking out of routine is hard, especially when it brings you comfort.

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TURNING 30

“We have to be able to grow up. Our wrinkles are our medals of the passage of life. They are what we have been through and who we want to be.” ~ Lauren Hutton

I don’t know many people who get excited about aging. Birthdays, yes. That number that changes each year, no. Yet, there are some great benefits that come with. No, not the grey hair or the wrinkles. But inner wisdom that can only be gained by years lived. The most important one: Self Confidence.

I have always considered birthdays more of a milestone then the changing of the year. Yes, a new year begins with people making all of these resolutions, as well as annoyingly struggling to remember to write the correct date. But it is birthdays, especially as we age which can bring many more important milestones to mark the passage of time and growth then any resolution. It is our younger selves that as we gain freedom, we learn and grow and as adults we (hopefully) gain more wisdom.

Aging can be controversial. I know many people who hate it. While I might joke about it, I have never been in that category. And now that I am “old,” each year I get is a true blessing. One I don’t take for granted, because so many people don’t get to see another year. Yes, old age brings that thing called adulting, as well as all the wrinkles and gray hair, oopps! But adulting, that word society thinks is so dirty, is incredibly freeing, empowering and confidence building if we are willing to embrace it.

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