Me Time: Then and Now

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A couple months ago, I challenged myself about making more time for ourselves and the activities we enjoy. I realized how our own happiness is essential if we want to adequately care for our spouse, our homes, our careers, etc. We can’t neglect our own needs, passions, hobbies, and favorite pastimes for too long; otherwise we’ll become tired, grumpy, cynical, and even physically ill.

Can anyone relate?

For  examples, we can make more time for ourselves, do more of the things we enjoy, and (as a result) live happier, more fulfilling lives.

Shopping for an afternoon sounds like pure torture, going to a busy restaurant or coffee shop to pay 5 times more for something that I could make in the comfort of my own home just seems like a waste of time and money.

Yes, I realize how insane this might sound to some (many) of you; but the idea of going on a weekend retreat or a coffee date just to “get away” sounds insane to me. What do I want to “get away” from? I LOVE being home!

Why I rarely ever feel the need for traditional forms of “me time” (especially since I got married!)

What I realized is that I actually DO enjoy “me time”… but my “me time” is often spent on everyday tasks that so many others want to get away from. Continue reading

Bucket List Unlocked: My First Train Journey…YIPPIIIIII!!!

I had never traveled in a train. My first train journey was from Surabaya to Semarang. I was so thrilled and waited eagerly for the day to come. I was expecting it to be one of the memorable days in my life. It was 4th March, 2017. It was a wonderful trip with my husband. Our train was scheduled to depart by 20:00 p.m. As soon as the train came into the platform, the passengers rushed to get into the train.  With a little of difficulty we could find our seats and placed our bag. All of us were seated in the same compartment. I was so excited. It was a great experience for me.  A thrill of excitement ran through my veins.

I sat by the window and looked at the passing scenery. By the time the train started for Semarang, I was busy observing the scenic beauty of East Java. Numerous roads, huge factories, busy towns and numerous stations. We didn’t realize how quickly time had passed.

Though it was a long, tiring 3,5 hours train journey, but it was really a memorable experience for me. There is romance in train travel—the rhythm of a train moving over the tracks, that rocking movement, the muffled noises of the world outside. There is the deep history of steel laid over prairie grass, bridges built, towns made and destroyed. There are stories of other journeys along the tracks, both dramatic and mundane. Continue reading

Why We Must Love Our Company

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Lots of people says recently to never love your company. Don’t love it because it may not love you back and bla bla bla. That kind of sense that I fail to understand. I just can’t get the point why shouldn’t we love the company where we work? How can’t we love the company we work for?

I have so many reasons why we MUST love our company.

For starter, we spend at least 8 hours a day in that place, at least 5 days a week. How does it feel to spend that much amount of time in a place that you hate? It must feel like hell!

Second, we earn a living from the job provided by our company. Don’t you feel like dating or marrying a guy just for his money with no love included?

And the most important thing is that we learn and we grow during our tenures in our companies. I don’t know if it’s you, but to me, the companies I’ve worked has really made me who I am today. The ups and downs has made me wiser, the experiences has made me skillful, and the chances I’ve got has discovered the competence that I never thought I had in me. How can’t I love something that has given all of that good things into my life? Continue reading

I Have Started to Wear My Hijab, and I Hope, Really Hope, it Will Last Forever

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I can remember every moment of the day I first started wearing hijab . I can remember waking up early because I couldn’t contain the excitement I felt. I can remember the exact shade of my hijab fabric, and the way it felt tighter than I had expected. I can remember my husband’s smile, and the length of my parent’s hug. I can remember the way my husband asked me one last time if I was sure this was what I wanted. I can remember the conviction of my answer. And, of course, I can also remember the fear.

I always want to do it. Since many many years ago, I already have that feelings. But being a sport-lover, there are always millions and thousands excuses and reasons to block my intention to wear hijab. But deep inside my heart, I want to do it! Continue reading

I Am A Stationery Addict

One of my favorite ever things is stationery. I like buying it, I like looking at it, I like arranging it nicely on my desk and taking pictures of it.

Pens, pencils, and papers- will I ever get enough?

It’s been a few years since I was at university so I don’t have a reason to buy stationery at this time of the year. However, I still love stationery and keep buying it anyway. For some reason, I love collecting notebooks even though most of them are left empty and unwritten. Some products are quite pricey but if you catch them on sale, they’re fairly reasonable.

I am a stationery addict because… Continue reading

Establishing A Writing Routine

Just like most of us, I love writing with my heart and soul. But it seems to be getting harder for me to keep myself in the writing flow as I get older. I was that kid that wrote notebooks and notebooks full of stories about fictional characters. It was my favorite thing to do.

Nowadays, I lose my inspiration and writing flow more easily. It’s one of the reasons I decided to blog. If I don’t write I get stuck. I start asking myself stupid questions like ‘Is my writing good enough?’ and ‘Is this subject I want to write about interesting enough?’ While in real life, the fear of failing at ‘being a good writer’ shouldn’t matter, or at least should not hold me back. Continue reading

Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today. I say this because it was a perfectly ordinary morning yet I feel so disappointed within. Its noon now and my mind is filled with negativity. It is one of those days when one wakes up and all of their life’s struggles and worst memories hit them like a storm. And the heart’s spirit sinks so low, there seems to be no hope of hope dwelling in it again. At such times, all one wants to do is talk to someone about it all. Just that. Be heard.

But time plays a cruel joke and one is left all alone, just on that very particular day, everyone needed seems to be busy with their life. It is quite ironic that when one wants to be left alone, they are flooded with suggestions, sympathies and empty words of comfort yet when one really needs them, they are left alone to deal with their misery. Such are the times when some realize the power of the Almighty. Continue reading

Don’t Play God. Don’t Judge Too Much.

Belum lama ini, saya curi-curi dengar obrolan beberapa orang di meja makan sebelah di salah satu tempat makan di Semarang. Salah satu cewek di kelompok itu bilang begini, “Rumah dia kemalingan pasti karena kurang banyak sedekahnya!”

Saya cukup kaget mendengarnya. Orang kena musibah kok, bukannya bersimpati malah dituduh yang bukan-bukan? Lagipula, dia itu kan bukan Tuhan, maka dari mana dia bisa tahu segala-galanya tentang amal-ibadah temannya itu?

Percakapan mereka mengingatkan saya dengan salah satu teman lama. Saat orang lain tertimpa musibah, dia akan langsung bilang, “Itu karmanya dia karena bla bla bla.” Tapi saat gantian dia sendiri yang sedang punya masalah, dengan entengnya dia cuma bilang, “Kesabaran saya sedang diuji sama Tuhan.” Continue reading

My Cat, Otong

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I still remember the first day I had met him, it was my wedding day. Those days I could not stand the thought of living under the same room with a cat, or any pet for that matter. But within a week, he won my heart. His mischievous eyes that also reflected the innocence of a kitten and his playful attitude warmed my heart towards him and made me find a new companion in him.

I named him Otong. I never knew before that the presence of a tiny animal could affect my life to such an extent. Otong had become the baby of our house. He got the most attention from everyone. His charm worked on people in such a delightful way. I am not sure whether those who have never owned a pet would be able to relate to my emotions but I can guarantee that anyone who has ever loved and cared for an animal in this manner would be able to understand exactly what I am talking about. Expert report that there are specific unique ways that our cats saying ‘I love You’. Continue reading

6 Tips Mengelola Kartu Kredit (Based On My Experience)

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Sejujurnya saya tidak terlalu suka memakai kartu kredit, lalu mengapa saya memiliki kartu kredit? Itu semua tak lebih untuk membantu seseorang mencapai deadline dari kantornya. Heuheuheu…toh kartu kredit yang saya miliki ini jarang saya pakai. Bahkan saya tidak menaruhnya dalam dompet sehingga tidak gampang tergoda untuk memakainya sewaktu-waktu.

Sebelumnya, mari kita bahas terlebih dahulu sebenarnya apa syh syarat mengajukan kartu kredit? Pada dasarnya setiap bank memiliki kebijakan yang berbeda-beda, bahkan dalam penetapan suku bunganya pun berbeda-beda. Untuk itu calon pemilik kartu kredit harus selektif untuk memilih bank manakah yang dapat memberi manfaat lebih. Namun begitu ada syarat-syarat yang kurang lebih sama jika kita ingin apply kartu kredit, yaitu: Continue reading